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[00:00:00] Speaker A: Welcome to Be Unbelievable. I'm Doug Wick and today we're talking about the real side of business, leadership and life.
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Welcome to Be Unbelievable where we explore the real stories behind resilient, purpose driven lives. I'm your host, Douglas Wick. Today's guest is someone who leads with heart, humility and a deep commitment to helping others win. Wade lives a simple philosophy.
Give value every day, expect nothing in return, and trust that when others rise, we all rise.
We're starting with someone, something so many people quietly struggle with. Feeling stuck in work that feels safe but no longer meaningful. Wade, welcome to the show.
[00:00:55] Speaker B: Yeah, thank you, Doug.
[00:00:56] Speaker A: We're talking about rediscovering purpose and when your job title no longer defines who you are.
[00:01:03] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:01:04] Speaker A: Or who you want to become.
[00:01:06] Speaker B: Yes. And listen, before we start, the thank you is not to me there. Today is nothing about me. Today is all about the listener and helping them understand about what they have inside of them to move forward. And Doug, I can't tell you there you are probably one of the most inspirational people I've ever met in my entire life. You're the reason why I am sitting here. And before we start, I just want to say thank you for doing this, creating this platform where people can come and share stories to help other people. Isn't that what we're on this earth to do? I mean, you've heard people say we're all in this together and you can say it as much as you want, but we all need to live it. And I don't have a secret sauce, but I have this book that I read every day and this book actually has several different books in the book and it has several different authors of the book. And it's written over several thousand years, but it's germane to everything that I do.
And there's this one little part in the book, and you can find it in First Peter, Chapter 3 and Verse 15, which reads, Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give a reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
So I know you're going to be asking me these things and I just want to share with the listeners that that's where this perspective comes from, that wisdom.
[00:02:45] Speaker A: Super. Yeah, we're going to be. We'll be getting into your faith and a lot of other questions and how you operate. The problem facing many in the audience is they feel stuck doing work that feels safe, but it's not meaningful. And it often feels like the dream they once had, you know, disappeared. So let's start out by talking about where you are today and how you did your early career. How did your early career shape the work you do now?
[00:03:20] Speaker B: Yeah, again. And I don't want this to be about me. I want the listener to put themselves in my shoes as I talk about, because I know for a fact that a lot of people struggle with this is who I am today is someone who learned the hard way, Doug, that I am not what I do. I'm who I am.
I, for a long time, tied my identity right to my profession, my productivity, how many hours I put in at work, you know, and. And what happened was I've got this career in construction, and what happened in 2008 is the whole economy crashed. My. My whole industry was gone in a flash. I was like. The company I was working for was bankrupt.
So I didn't have an identity anymore because my work was gone.
Right. And so I.
But I guess that shaped me into who I am today because I'm someone who genuinely cares about helping other people.
Every day. I try to be a positive influence. I try to wake up, and I try to offer a smile to a stranger. I pay compliments to acquaintances and friends.
I listen with intent to every single friend. I give advocacy to potential clients, and I give wise counsel to my clients. And I really like to show up with unconditional love to my best friends and my family.
And I live by.
I live by this, is that people will forget what you say and what you do, but they'll never forget how you make them feel. And I feel like we've all got this platform that we can do that for others. Right. And so that belief shapes both my life and my work today. And my work today is I'm a general contractor helping people build all sorts of. Of facilities. The only thing I don't want to build today is a single family home. Anything else is on the table.
[00:05:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
I should add, knowing you, we've. We've been friends for guess, 15 years or so now, but you. You do certainly live what you just said, and it's a pleasure to. To know you. So let's talk about something that you know from the outside.
You know, you're on this journey, but what parts do people not see? What do they. What parts do they miss?
[00:06:01] Speaker B: It's a great question, Doug.
You know, I think many of us put on a mask every morning.
You know, we put on our clothes to go to work, but we also put on that mask because the Mask is I gotta show everybody I've got everything put together.
I'm all put together. I've got it all figured out. Just ask me, you know? And so putting on a mask every day is very tiring. And so you see success on the outside, but what people don't see is in me is a man that is still healing.
Okay. I grew up, and I know a bunch of people can put themselves in my shoes right now. When they think back at their childhood, it was a challenge. I don't know what their challenges were. I'm not going to get into detail about what my challenges were. But there's scars within my childhood that I still have.
And while I've built a successful life on the outside, there's still those wounds on the inside that haven't disappeared with that achievement. There's still that wounded young boy that shows up a lot when adversity comes, those triggers that hit us all. And I know people listening have triggers and they can key into what I'm talking about there. But I learned how to function, I learned how to perform, I learned how to succeed.
But I also made a commitment to healing.
It's an ongoing, difficult journey, but facing that every single month on what it is I need to do to be better personally is that inner work that shapes how I am, that. That helps me show up for each person in front of me with more empathy, more understanding, putting myself in their shoes, and really helping me to help people win.
[00:07:59] Speaker A: Yeah. And again, Wade, you do that extremely well. We talk about this in the chat. Change your mind, create new results. Dr. Joe's work, that there's a gap, Right. Between where we.
Who we are and who we present to the public. You did a really good job of explaining how you are working at, you know, compressing that. Yeah.
[00:08:25] Speaker B: Yes, sir.
[00:08:25] Speaker A: So was. Was there a time. Well, you've already mentioned this. Right. 2008, I think. Was there a time when you face the challenge?
[00:08:37] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:38] Speaker A: And about meaningful work.
[00:08:41] Speaker B: Yeah. Let me expand on that a little bit. I mentioned at the top, that book that I read with the wisdom in it, there's another. There's another book, verse, chapter, that.
That is germane to this question about challenges. And it's in James and it's in chapter one, and it's verse two through four. And it says this.
Consider it pure joy, brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
And let that perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete and not lacking anything.
Right? So consider it pure joy. When you're going through trials, that seems kind of, I don't know, opposite. But when you do embrace that, when you do understand that God doesn't waste a hurt, we can come back to that question that you asked me about the challenge. That defining moment, Doug, was in 2008, when the housing market crashed.
Literally. My company went bankrupt. I lost my job. I was in complete despair overnight. My career was gone. Construction was the only thing I knew it essential. So everything disappeared. And I know listeners right now can put themselves. Maybe they're in that situation right now. They're. They're there at home without a job, without an industry going, I don't know what's next.
And, you know, at the same time, I had a wife that did not work outside the home, okay. And I had two young daughters who were completely dependent on me to provide for them, okay? So the. The pressure is very, very high. So when you're in that situation, is it easy to say, oh, man, I can be joyful because I'm in this trial?
It's difficult. It's difficult at the time. But if you can channel that, there's wisdom to that. Trust me. I had been working a hundred hours a week.
I believed that that sacrifice equaled value and provision to my family. Okay?
But when the work was gone, my purpose was gone, too.
And. And I honestly believe, Doug, that my life, as I understood it, was over, done.
It was despair. I was there. So people listening, I was there. But there's the rest of the story that we're going to talk about, Doug.
[00:11:21] Speaker A: Yeah, well, that. I think that goes to the next thing that we want to talk about, which is what story.
The. The story you were telling yourself was, I'm done. Right. But what. What. What changed? What.
How did. How did you manage that?
[00:11:38] Speaker B: Yeah, so there's a. There's a time, right, Mike. I think Mike Tyson says it, you know, everybody's got a plan until you get hit in the mouth, right? And so when you're sitting at home and. And you have three people looking at you, depending upon you, and you just been hit in the mouth, right? And so what I told myself, the story I was telling myself at that point in time was, you are a failure, dude. You're letting your family down. And again, I believe that my worth was directly tied to. To my ability to provide financially, right? And so at the time, I had no ability to provide financially, right? So I was hit in the mouth.
And, you know, with. Without that ability I felt useless.
I felt ashamed.
I felt afraid.
I couldn't see. I could not see a future. All I saw was loss.
And I was telling myself that over and over and over again.
[00:12:43] Speaker A: So the problem facing, again, many in the audience is leadership moments can feel overwhelming, and it often feels like you're on your own with no clear way forward.
So what was the defining challenge for you, Wade, that truly tested your leadership?
[00:13:03] Speaker B: Great question, Doug.
You know, I'm glad. I'm hoping that the audience stuck around, because it was doom and gloom in the first segment, and now we're going to start talking about getting up off the mat. Okay. Because this is where the good stuff really happens. And, you know, unfortunately, when I faced that challenge in 2008, I had not really built a trusted kind of, you know, group of friends, right, that. That I. That built around me. I was always of the mindset. I was always in control of everything.
And so the shift began, really, for me when I realized, hey, you got two choices, right?
Stay in despair or step into leadership anyway, right? So those are the two choices.
So I know when we get in a situation where everybody's got the situation where they feel like there's no way out, there's no. There's. There is no answer. And I call it the spiral. It's like when our mind is our worst enemy and we continue to play over and over and over again.
And for me, it was, my industry's gone there. I'm washed up. There are no opportunities out there. I might as well go, you know, flip hamburgers at McDonald's. I don't know what else to do.
So what I decided to do was I started to intentionally interrupt that spiral in my mind instead.
You know, instead of all the failures, instead of all the negativity, I forced myself to create what I called a highlight reel. Okay? And so each listener right now has the ability to look back on their career, on their friendships and in their families, and look back and create that highlight reel of those things. Those past experience, those moments of resilience, those moments of victory, those moments of overcoming things, those moments of celebrating things together, those things that I started replaying in my mind helped me to begin to act like the leader that I should be of my household again.
It refocused me. And it wasn't because I had all the answers. I did not. I still don't have all the answers, Doug. But because my family needed stability and confidence and presence.
They didn't need perfection.
Perfection is what I was striving for and really I needed to focus on the ladder, and that's what I did, and that's what really got me up off the mat and back in the game.
[00:15:58] Speaker A: Great. So what belief did you have to. Was there a belief you had to let go of in that? Tell me about that. Tell me.
[00:16:09] Speaker B: Yeah, I touched on that a little bit there. Just in that last. Your last question is, I believe that I was in control of everything. Right? So, hey, listen, I've done this myself my whole career. I can handle this.
I absolutely had to release that belief that strength means doing everything by myself.
Okay? So as a person who loves to give, I've always been comfortable giving.
That's what gets me up every morning. I, I love to give to people. I love to help people, but I was deeply, deeply, deeply uncomfortable receiving.
So I was in a situation, no job industry gone, all's lost. I was in a situation where I couldn't do this myself.
Right. So I had to embrace help. And that is very, very difficult for someone who puts priority first on giving.
So I had to learn that allowing others to support me wasn't weakness.
Okay.
It was wisdom.
Right. I was, I had to resign the fact that I thought I was smart enough to figure this out when the wisdom was there's people out there that can help me get over this hump.
And, and accepting that became the turning point in opening doors I could have never done on my own.
[00:17:50] Speaker A: So what changed first? Do you remember your thoughts, feelings, or your act? What, what, what do you think changed first?
[00:17:58] Speaker B: Yeah, well, change is uncomfortable. I don't care what, I don't care what you're talking about. Change is uncomfortable by nature, but especially challenging when, when you defined your, your self worth for decades.
That, that it comes with working.
Right? And so that change is really difficult. So what I had to do was let go of a couple of things.
Pride.
I don't know, I don't know if any of your listeners can relate to this, but pride is something that is very, very difficult to let go of.
And certainty. So pride and certainty I had to let go of. And it was painful, but I learned, I learned, Doug, that discomfort is often the entry point to growth.
You know, I've heard it said, don't sit in your comfort coffin. You got to get outside of that comfort zone to get growth. And, and that's, you know, that was my point in time where there was no turning back. I was, I was going to move forward and, and, and embrace those things.
[00:19:18] Speaker A: That's interesting. We, again, in the change your mind, create new results. Dr. Joe's program. We talk about the river of change and how important it is when you're in that unknown area to be comfortable with change. In fact, that's the biggest thing about being in that river of change. You need to be uncomfortable being uncomfortable. And it sounds like the. That was a hurdle for you, but that was. That's, in fact, what you actually embraced, which is why you got through and got to the other side. What. What advice would you give someone who feels alone in those biggest leadership moments or just in the process of change? What would you. What advice would you give them, Wade?
[00:20:10] Speaker B: I would just tell them if they do embrace those things on the other side, doors open.
Doors open. Personally, doors open professionally.
People show up in your life unexpectedly.
People come around that you had no idea who they were and their life changing. So you'll start to begin to see your value outside of your work. That's. And that's what. That's what happened to me.
And I realized, like, the skill sets and my character and my heart for service had actually greater impact after I received that. In not only my work, but serving on nonprofits, serving my family, that perspective really changed everything.
[00:21:09] Speaker A: Yeah. So for. For leaders who want to grow into this kind of servant leadership, where can they learn more about you and stay connected with you? For example, somebody's out there that's watching is interested in building a commercial building.
Right. For example, how. How can they connect with you? Yeah.
[00:21:35] Speaker B: Going to reach out to me because of this. I don't want to talk about business. I want to talk about them. I want to talk about their life. I want to get real with what their problems are. I want to provide value and how I could potentially help. They say if you want to know what the road looks like ahead, ask the people coming back. I'm the person coming back. I want. I want to help the other people. Right. And so I guess, you know, going back to your question, how would they get a hold of me? I mean, I'm on the DCI Group website. My email's there. I'm on LinkedIn. Reach out to me. I'm the kind of person that accepts every single cold outreach because you are one meeting away from changing everything.
And I would challenge who's ever listening to this to try me on that.
[00:22:28] Speaker A: Give us the link for DCI.
[00:22:31] Speaker B: DCI Group's website is www.dcigroup-us.com.
[00:22:37] Speaker A: awesome. Thank you. Thank you.
So, coming up, we're going to talk about integrity and what happens when you refuse to compromise who you are. That's coming up on segment three. Stay with us. More honest insight and real world perspective from business owners to is coming up on Be Unbelievable. And we're back. I'm Doug Wick and this is Be Unbelievable on NOW Media Television. Let's continue.
Welcome back To Be Unbelievable. Success can tempt people to cut corners way, but lasting impact is built on trust and trust is built on integrity.
Again, the problem that people facing is that they want to make an impact but worry they'll have to compromise who they are. It often feels like success only comes to those people who, you know, bend the rules.
So how'd you learn to build trust in your career and community,
[00:23:44] Speaker B: Doug? Actually meeting you taught me this.
Doug Wick, I, I respect you more than, than, than you know, my friend. You, you reached out to me on a cold call and I was so impressed with how you reached out to me through a competitor and asked me for 15 minutes in my conference room. And I can, I remember it like it was yesterday, but because when you asked me that, I said, doug, I don't know who you are or why my competitor gave you my name, but the fact that you took the time to look me up, ask questions and ask for 15 minutes in my conference room, you're the type of person I would want to hire to be on my team.
So you really inspired me on how to actually reach out to people, first of all. And second of all, what you wanted to do was help me. That's all your intentions were. Your intentions were, I want to use my skills and my gifts to help you.
Turns out that the company that I was working for at the time was not open to your services. But to this day I am so glad that they weren't because what it did was it created a situation where you and I became friends socially and made an on purpose effort to get together monthly to network and figure out how can we help each other. You were my example of how to treat people.
You taught me that.
And, and then when the phone call came that you were in the hospital and you needed me to take over this non profit that absolutely helps hundreds of kids throughout eastern Iowa. That was a life changing moment for me because my blinders were on 100% of my career and focusing on what I could do in my career, you showed me a different path. You showed me that I have a platform that I can use in construction but pointing it towards the community.
That very first day that I landed at that high school, that this, that this pro athlete made this speech that created this young lady to ask a question and then to write down on a card that, I'm gonna kill myself because I'm. I'm tired of the bullying. And we saved her life by intervening. Doug, how can you not shift your focus on helping others when something like that happens in your life? And, Doug, I have you to thank. I would have never experienced that had I not met you. That's why I never not answer a cold call, because one meeting with someone can change everything for you and for me. That changed everything for me and how I see other people and how I see how I can use my gifts to help other people.
Yeah.
[00:27:05] Speaker A: Thanks.
Thank you.
Question that maybe you can elaborate a little bit about a little further. When did you first realize integrity matters, even when it's hard? Was there. Was there a moment when you felt like you had to?
Maybe.
Or maybe that's never been an issue with you?
[00:27:33] Speaker B: I wouldn't say that. I would say, you know, as human beings, we're all faced with, you know, times where we're gonna have to make a tough call, right?
And.
And we're all going to have to stand up for what we believe in.
And I'm. And unfortunately, culture today really kind of, and through social media and everything that we're fed, you know, feeds us these narratives, you know, And I firmly believe that there's never a wrong time to do the right thing. And that's the mantra that goes through my head every day with every decision, with every interaction, and with every opportunity when you choose the right thing.
Maybe it's counterculture, maybe it's unpopular.
You can look yourself in the mirror at night. I call it the accountability mirror, by the way.
When I look myself in the mirror at night, I look at myself square in the eye and say. And say this. Did you do it right today?
And I'll tell you what, if the. If the answer is no, then I better get back out there and do it better the next day, and I owe some people an apology. Right? And so I think that's the key to light. I think that's the key to success.
Even when you do it right and the results aren't where you want them to be, at least you can look yourself in the eye and say, you did it. You did it. Right.
Go ahead.
[00:29:02] Speaker A: Yeah. I got to ask this question because I think integrity came about when we have. We discussed where you were working at the time when I did make that cold call on you. There was some. Some what?
I don't know if it's People would describe it as integrity, but there was a lack of
[00:29:25] Speaker B: alignment.
[00:29:26] Speaker A: Yeah. That. Tell us a little bit about that and what made your decision to. To. To what happened with that position. Yeah.
[00:29:34] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, oftentimes you find yourself in a position at a company, and again, Doug, this goes back to. You find yourself, you know, comfortable within that company. You're. You're getting a steady paycheck. You know, you. You. You know, you're just kind of trudging along. But. But there's a. There's a. There's a disagreement with how leadership wants to do things, and maybe you're asked to do stuff that you disagree with. And I was not going to be the type of person who just went. Got along to get along. I was always going to make the decision to do what is the right thing for me and the integrity that I had. And so I feel like people, when they're faced with challenges, often times they need people like a Doug Wick to come into their life.
Right. And show them who they really are. I. Doug, I want to write a book someday.
Okay? And the title is Let me introduce you to you.
Because I think people get so caught up in, I can't do this or I can't do that, or the chips are stacked against me. There are five or six people around you that know not only who you are, but who you can become.
Okay. And I want people to know that when those times come, you need to be reaching out to those people, and they need to be reminding you of who you are, because we can forget who we are in those moments, not just who you are, but who you can become. And really seek out what that true identity is. And that true identity comes on the other side of always doing the right thing, no matter what. No matter if it's stepping out of that job that feels comfortable. Right. No matter if it means going against what's popular. Right. At the end of the day, you can look yourself in the mirror and said, I did the right thing.
[00:31:35] Speaker A: Yeah. Thank you for that. You know, that's what this program is about. Be unbelievable. And. And it takes, as we talked about closing that gap, to be your authentic self. Right. So. And you've been doing this already, but maybe, maybe.
Let me ask you this question, which is, what would you encourage someone who's afraid of keeping their values? All right.
How would you tell them to slow down? Or what would you tell them to do in order to be able to live their values and to be their authentic self?
[00:32:14] Speaker B: Yeah. Doug, the key. The key Here is this.
And it's very, very simple.
Oftentimes when you've, when you've lost your way or you've lost your values or you're in that spiral that I'm talking about, right. And you're feeling absolutely hopeless or helpless, Right? Here's what I say. When you are feeling helpless, get helpful, right? Because when you shift your focus, right, from protecting yourself and self. And self. And self. Right.
To shifting that to others, something really remarkable happens.
You rediscover your purpose.
You, you have a different perspective. You see more possibilities. And when you see the other person thrive, right. That rekindles and that reinforces the fact that you should be aligning with those values but pointing them outward towards the people that need them most.
And then that perspective, that pity party that you're having goes away. Yeah.
Completely goes away because you see that other people need you the most. And that's for me, been the most unbelievable transformation in my life. And Doug, you are a huge reason why is you've taught me how to live outwardly and not inwardly. I mean, you've heard it say, what's the difference between bitter and better?
Well, you remove the eye.
[00:33:58] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So let me just.
I've always heard that the best way when you got a problem is to find somebody who has the same problem and then help them. That's the way to get out of that.
[00:34:13] Speaker B: Yeah. Done.
[00:34:14] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:34:14] Speaker B: You are, you are most qualified to help the person that you used to be.
[00:34:19] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:34:20] Speaker B: It's true.
[00:34:21] Speaker A: Exactly. All right, so up next, we're going to close with a powerful truth about generosity right right up your alley and how giving more than you take can transform your life. That's up next.
Stay with us. More honest insight and real world perspective from business owners is coming up on BE unbelievable. And we're back. I'm Doug Wick and this is Be Unbelievable on NOW Media Television. Let's continue.
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So again, welcome back to Be Unbelievable. As we close, we're talking about a mindset that runs counter to today's me first culture and the power of giving without expecting anything in return. And it's beautiful we have here Wade to talk about this because the problem that most people in the audience face is they focus on what they can get out of life. All right? And it often feels like it doesn't get give them back anything. Right. So let's ask some questions regarding that subject, that theme. When did you first learn that giving to others would shape your own success?
[00:36:30] Speaker B: I love it. That's a great question, Doug.
Well, it was in 1995.
I happen to be building houses for a large family owned home building company. I was a project manager and I happened to be driving on a road back and forth between our office and a job site and happened to notice a gentleman sitting on a median in between a busy two lane road with a sign that says looking for work.
So I, I drove up on the median. I think I scared him a little bit, but I drove up on the median, I walked up to this gentleman, I put my hand out and I said, hi, I'm Wade.
And he shook my hand and he said, hi, I'm Jerry.
I said, jerry, what's your story?
And Jerry told me his story.
Well, I asked Jerry, I said, jerry, I couldn't notice, couldn't help notice your sign.
Looking for work. What kind of work you looking for? He goes, well, I love construction.
I like, I said, jerry, well, that's a very interesting coincidence. I happen to be in construction. Get your, get your stuff and get in my truck. And Jerry very hesitantly got his stuff and got in my truck. Okay, so now let's back up. I've been working for this company for 10 years and I've got this really grumpy guy. His name's Dan Crystal. He's a framer for me. And so I would always go up to Dan and Dan was always very grumpy. He would say the same thing. I know you're going to come up and ask me when I'm going to have this house done. And you know what, if I could find more people to work, I could get them done faster. And you know, you don't know that because you just, you just drive around, tell people what to do all the time. So you wouldn't know anything about getting help and all that. He told me that every day, Doug.
So I got Jerry in my truck. And so I'm trying to think, where is Dan Crystal's job site?
So I, so I, I make a Beeline. We turn on the interstate, and we're heading down the interstate, and Jerry's. Jerry and I are talking, getting to know each other. And I pulled up to Dan Crystal's job site. I said, jerry, stay in the truck. He said, okay. So I get out of the truck and I see Dan giving me the, the stare right away, like, right away, like, here we go again. Here he comes. So he says, yeah, don't, don't even start. Don't even ask. And I said, well, Dan, fortuitously, I've got somebody in my truck that wants to help you. He goes, yeah, sure you do.
And I turn around and look, I. I say, you know, Jerry, come on over. So Jerry comes up.
Jerry and Dan shake hands. Dan says, how long have you known Jerry, Wade?
I said, well, I'd say it took us about 45 minutes to drive over here. I've known Jerry for 45 minutes. He goes, what qualifies Jerry to work for me?
I said, jerry actually had a sign that said he wanted to work.
And on our way over here, he told me that if I gave him an opportunity, he would be the hardest working person any employer would ever see.
And Dan looked at Jerry and he said, is that true?
Jerry said, yes, sir. He said, I don't have a car, I don't have tools, but if you'll provide me with tools and you'll have someone pick me up, I don't care if it's 4 o' clock in the morning, I will be your hardest working employee, hands down.
And Dan goes, well, I guess since I have no other choice, get the tool belt on.
Okay, so that interaction, Doug.
Ten years later, Jerry is running six framing crews. There are 70 families dependent upon Jerry, Jerry's leadership to provide for, for those, for that many families. Okay? And so the ripple effect of just being interested in someone can lead to so much more. And for me, that was the big win for me. And hearing those stories, both Dan and Jerry have passed away since. But I will never forget the rest of my life the lessons that. That taught me and the huge victories that followed.
[00:41:11] Speaker A: Yeah, that's. That's an incredible, incredible story, Wade. Wow.
That. Almost unbelievable, you know, I mean, really, really. So tell me, what's the hardest part about being generous? Especially when you feel like you're being stretched? You know, you got, you got enough on your plate.
How do you manage to still be generous in those moments?
[00:41:38] Speaker B: I think it's Doug. Being generous is not a burden.
Generosity does, does not have to take time.
The coffee that I bought at the gas station this morning. And the smile that I gave to the clerk, I was walking through there anyway, so that generosity took no time whatsoever.
The coffee meeting that I just had prior to coming here, I intentionally scheduled because it's a young lady that is in between jobs that needs help networking. And so I have a network that can help her. Okay. And. And so that generosity, I don't see that as a burden on my time. I see that as a valuable asset that I have that I can give value to her. My hope is that by the end of this week, she is gainfully employed because of the people that I put in front of her. Now, again, I'm not the hero of this story at all. I'm just saying that we all. We are all put here right to. We're all blessed. We're blessed to be a blessing.
We are. We all have our gifts, talents, and connections, and we're all here to use those and use those wisely. So if you find yourself in a situation where you feel like being generous is a burden, then you're thinking about it the wrong way.
[00:43:09] Speaker A: Agreed. Yeah. And you. You certainly are a catalyst for networking. You are one of the best at being able to connect people and get people connected. So I applaud you for that. How. How did you feel your life and results began to change once you chose to give first?
[00:43:34] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:43:34] Speaker A: Any insights?
[00:43:35] Speaker B: It's very interesting, Doug. You know, when you do not focus on. On the outcome and you focus on the process, the outcomes come.
Right. So every day, every Sunday here. Okay. I. I'll. I'll. I'll give you a little peek behind the curtain.
Every Sunday, I sit down and I look at every single appointment on my calendar. Yeah. And I look at every single person within those appointments on my calendar, and I say a prayer to God that whatever that conversation is, that that person will be better and the outcome will be better because of it. That's my sole focus every single week.
And maybe the outcomes aren't as great as I want them to be, but they're a step closer, and it's an intentional thing that I do.
[00:44:34] Speaker A: Yeah, it's pretty awesome. You've told me that before, and I.
Well, haven't started, but plan to follow that process, too, because I. I have a little different process that. That I do every week when I'm planning. And I love the idea of looking at your list of people that you're going to meet and praying for them and thinking about how can I make their life better by being with them. I, it's, it's incredible how you operate and following your process, which, Yes, I love. You've got a process and you stay with it, so. Yes, sir.
Yeah. So, Wade, you've been incredibly inspiring where again, to remind people how can people connect with you at again, the website or LinkedIn? Right, tell us a little bit more.
[00:45:26] Speaker B: Yeah, I mean, I, I, I really like to connect on LinkedIn just because that's where I do most of my networking. So just look me up. Wade Heiner on LinkedIn and then my email address is Wade H.
DCI Group D U S.com My cell number is 319-533-5713.
I answer it whether I recognize that number or not. In fact, I get really excited when I don't recognize the number because I got a new opportunity to make a new friend.
[00:46:02] Speaker A: Super. So, Wade, thank you for reminding us that unbelievable isn't built on titles on status or shortcuts. It's built on purpose, courage and integrity and generosity.
Today we talked about rediscovering meaning, facing hard leadership moments, standing firm in your values, and choosing to give more than you take. Those choices don't just change careers, they change lives.
So to our viewers, no matter where you are or what you're facing, remember, miraculous possibilities are already exist within you. The choice is whether you're willing to believe, to change and be unbelievable. This is be unbelievable.
And so are you. Thank you, Wade, thanks so much.
[00:46:55] Speaker B: My pleasure.
[00:46:57] Speaker A: Thanks for watching Be Unbelievable. Join me next time as we continue the conversation every business owner needs but rarely hears.
[00:47:07] Speaker B: Sam.
